We All Want Love (Unified Love)

The most honest heartfelt story of love When your lover lays their head on your chest and says I love you, are they telling you how they feel or that they will be there for you whenever and wherever you need them? Love has two meanings: How I feel I am committed. We want our lover to mean both when they say I love you. But do they, and can they? Unlike other books on love, We All Want Love explores these two meanings giving you the tools to explore and improve your loving relationships. Here is a taster: "...the problem with the word love is we use it in two ways. It describes how we feel at times, and it's an expression of an enduring commitment to somebody we value immensely. I think this is why we are so tied to the idea that love is a feeling in the West. The phrase 'You love me now, but will you love me in the morning?' - or, as the song says, Will you still love me tomorrow? - epitomises the problem. I call it the adjective/verb problem. "When you tell Stephen you love him, you are saying something more than how you feel at that time. And the same is true when he says he loves you. Those words are against a foundation of value, commitment and attachment. You view him as immensely valuable, as he does you. You offer him assurance to be there for him and do the kinds of things lovers do for one another, and he is your romantic beloved. This is love as a verb. "In contrast, people say they love each other as an adjective when they mean, I feel this way when I am with you. That is not the same as saying I love you as a verb. The two meanings are distinctly different. "The situation is made worse when we do bestow love and all that entails as a verb, because it usually includes the 'I feel this way' adjective. But, and this is important, one does not necessarily mean the other." "I don't follow." "Well, you can say you love somebody as an adjective but not as a verb. In the movie Pretty Woman, for example, after sex, as Vivian lies next to Edward, she says she loves him. In saying this, she reflects how she feels there and then. Granted, she is close to the point of bestowing her love upon Edward in terms of wanting to be a part of his life as his lover, but unresolved issues prevent her from doing this, so she is not expressing her love as a verb, but instead telling him, or us actually, the way she feels as an adjective. Her saying I feel lovely right now, please don't make it stop, is a truer reflection of her state of mind. "If we took all Vivian's feelings and stuffed them into a jar and stuck on a label, it would read 'love'. She is describing to Edward how she feels at that moment in one word, but she is not committing herself to him." Who is Cameron Macdonald? Cameron is a long-time researcher on love and relationships following in the footsteps of Profs. Irving Singer and Plato. He is a respected Quora contributor on Love Life Advice and Dating Relationships. His first book, Voyage to the Heart: The Nature of Love, which describes love in fine detail and characterizes all loving relationships, can also be found on Amazon.

Author: Cameron Macdonald

Publisher: Colourcloud Publishing

Publication Date: Aug 30, 2019

Number of Pages: 72 pages

Language: English

Binding: Paperback

ISBN-10: 047347140X

ISBN-13: 9780473471408