Don't Ask, Don't Tell: A Geek Growing Up Gay in the 90s

When your superpower is invisibility, how can you expect to be seen?

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A decade of misperceptions. Don't Ask.

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An era of silence. Don't Tell.

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An epic battle of good and evil filled with humor, pain, loss, love, and triumph - Okay, a young, gay man's journey of self-discovery in a society that demanded obscurity. A Geek Growing Up Gay in the 90s.

Follow the author from the time he comes out of the closet until he discovers how to love. Not just another man, but more importantly, himself. Without any examples, role models, or direction, Jay stumbles his way through a decade that devalued his voice and emerges a superhero - at least in his heart (or head).

The story follows a seemingly disjointed quest from Alaska to Texas, Washington State to Washington D.C., and parts in between. As Jay confronts goblins and princes, knights and rogues - even a monster or two - he discovers a universal truth; real power comes from being yourself.

Sometimes painful, oftentimes funny, but always real, the author shares the memories that influenced his growth into a proud, gay man. Finding the courage to share your voice is the greatest way to fight back against the oppressions of closeting conventions, and the best way to slay a dragon is to surround yourself with powerful friends.